Published On: Sun, Jun 1st, 2014

Memo From A Child To A Parent

In this memo from a chilmemo from a childd to a parent, it gives us great insight into how a child thinks. The unknown author of the piece has expressed the thoughts and emotions of a child beautifully. I hope you find it thought provoking and even as warming to the heart as we did.

  • Don’t spoil me. I know quite well that I ought not to have all I ask for. I’m only testing you.
  • Don’t be afraid to be firm with me. I prefer it. It makes me feel secure.
  • Don’t let me form bad habits. I have to rely on you to detect them in the early stages.
  • Don’t make me feel smaller than I am. It only makes me feel stupidly “big”.
  • Don’t correct me in front of other people if you can help it.
  • Don’t make me feel that my mistakes are sins. It upsets my sense of values.
  • Don’t protect me from consequences. I need to learn the painful way sometimes.
  • Don’t be too upset when I say “I hate you”. Sometimes it isn’t you I hate, but your power to thwart me.
  • Don’t take too much notice of my small ailments. Sometimes they get me the attention I need.
  • Don’t nag. If you do, I shall have to protect myself by appearing deaf.
  • Don’t forget I cannot explain myself as well as I should like. That is why I am not always accurate.
  • Don’t put me off when I ask questions. If you do, you will find that I stop asking and seek my information elsewhere.
  • Don’t be inconsistent. That completely confuses me and makes me lose faith in you.
  • Don’t tell me my fears are silly. They are terribly real and you can do much to reassure me if you try to understand.
  • Don’t ever suggest you are perfect or infallible.  It gives me too great a shock when I discover that you are neither.
  • Don’t ever think it is beneath your dignity to apologise to me. An honest apology makes me feel surprisingly warm toward you.
  • Don’t forget I love experimenting. I couldn’t get along without it. So please put up with it.
  • Don’t forget how quickly I am growing up. It must be very difficult for you to keep pace with me, but please do try.
  • Don’t forget that I don’t thrive without lots of love and understanding, but I don’t need to tell you do I?
  • Please keep yourself fit and healthy. I need you.

The writer is unknown. It was reprinted in an editorial by the late Dr. Frank Oski, former Chairman of Pediatrics at Johns Hopkins University, in the December 1988 issue of Contemporary Pediatrics.

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